If you’re the type of person who got into trouble when you were younger, always getting punished for this and that, why are you trying to play it straight today? If you struggle to achieve relatively straightforward goals, perhaps you’re not the kind of person who can play it straight and expect to succeed. Perhaps you’re too much of a rebel for that strategy to work.
The key breakthrough was when I asked a simple question:
What can I do that feels edgy, rebellious, and fun but isn’t illegal?
What might be against the rules? What might push some boundaries? What would have some element of risk?