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Self-Appreciation

Self-Appreciation / Abraham-Hicks / Part 1

The subject of self-appreciation is literally at the heart of everything that everyone that you know is living. Law of Attraction means that that which you are, that which you are feeling, that which you are oozing, that which you are thinking, that which you are vibrating, that which you are being, that which you are… is your point of attraction. As you think and feel, you attract.

You are the attractor of your experience. Not one other in all of the Universe has anything to do with what is coming to you. And so there is not a more important topic or understanding for you as an individual to come to understand than how to feel good about you, because the way you feel about you is your very basis of attraction.

Self-Appreciation / Abraham-Hicks / Part 2

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If you are wanting to come into the full appreciation of self, we would encourage you to write in your Book of Positive Aspects—which is nothing more than a notebook called positive aspects—write pages upon pages upon pages of positive aspects that you see about you.

And if you don’t see any today, then write: I want to see some positive aspects about me.

We would encourage you to look for your value everywhere that you can. Look for reasons to adore you, and what will happen is, every time you think a thought that is in harmony with that which your Inner Being knows to be, you will feel good. Every time you think a thought that is not in harmony with that which your Inner Being knows to be, you will feel bad.

By paying attention to the way that you feel, you will begin to notice that when you’re thinking thoughts that are praising yourself, you feel good. And when you are thinking thoughts that are diminishing yourself, you feel bad.

When you are thinking in terms of “I can, I can, I can”… you will feel good. When you are thinking in terms of “I can’t”… you will feel bad.

This is an individual process, whereby you as an individual decide that you want to feel good about you. When you feel good about you, you are vibrating positive energy. When you vibrate positive energy, you are positively attracting.

If you are wanting all of those things to come to you, which includes the mate you have been wanting, the money you have been wanting, the work that is more satisfying and more fulfilling, the new house that you are wanting, the car that you are wanting—all of those things of a physical or non-physical nature that you have been wanting—the re-claiming of your perfect bodily health that you are wanting… If you are wanting any of those things that you are identifying as your desire to come into your experience, it is absolutely imperative that you come to a place of positive vibration… which means you MUST adore you.

If you do not like yourself, then you can want until you are blue in the face, and those things that you want cannot come into your experience. The balance that you are wanting to bring into your life experience is the balance of appreciating you. And you appreciate you not all at once on the big things; you appreciate yourself one thought by one thought, one segment by one segment, one moment by one moment, by looking for reasons to appreciate yourself.

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What Story Are You Living?

Jen Sincero / You Are a Badass audiobook

Jen Sincero, from You Are a Badass:

We pretty much don’t ever do anything that we don’t benefit from in some way, be it in a healthy way or an unhealthy way. If you’re perpetuating something dismal in your life because of some dopey story, there’s definitely something about it that you’re getting off on.

Let’s say, for example, that your story is that you’re depressed. Chances are pretty good that even though it feels awful, when you feel awful you don’t have to work hard or do the laundry or go to the gym. It also feels very familiar and cozy and comfortable. It gets you attention. People come in and check on you and sometimes bring food. It gives you something to talk about. It allows you to not try too hard or move forward and face possible failure. It lets you drink beer for breakfast.

Let’s say your story is that you can’t make money. By staying broke, you get to be right. You get to be a victim, which makes you dependent on other people and gets you attention. Other people will offer to pay. You don’t have to take responsibility. You get to give up before you start and avoid possible failure. If things in your life fall far below the mediocre scale, you get to blame other people and circumstances instead of taking risks to change it because you can’t afford to take risks.

Let’s say your story is that you stink at relationships. You get your freedom. You don’t have to commit and can keep looking for the greener grass on the other side. You don’t have to risk getting hurt by being vulnerable. You get to complain about always being single and get sympathy. You get the whole bed to yourself, never have to compromise, and don’t have to shave unless it’s summer.

We don’t realize it, but we’re making the perks we get from perpetuating our stories more important than getting the things we really want because it’s familiar territory, it’s what we’re comfy with and we’re scared to let it go. If we’ve been depressed or victimized or whatever since childhood, we trick ourselves into believing that it’s really who we are as adults in order to continue reaping “the rewards.” It’s how we survived as kids, but it doesn’t serve us anymore so we need to get rid of it or we’ll just keep creating more of it.

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Success & Service

Derek Sivers, on the James Altucher podcast:

When I look back at my life, and what was successful and what wasn’t, it seems that whenever I was focused on me, me, me, me… All my years making music. It’s me up on stage, singing my thoughts into a microphone. Spotlight’s on me. I’m out there promoting me. It’s all about me. I did that for 15 years, and it was hard. It just felt like always an uphill battle. I had some success, but for the most part, it was hard.

On the other hand, as soon as I turned my attention 100% to others, I said, “Okay. Forget me. How can I help you?” That was like the big idea behind CD Baby. When it was just completely putting myself into the service of others and just completely forgetting myself, I ceased to exist, “I am here solely for your service” — then boom! That’s where all the successes seems to happen repeatedly in my life.

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Emotional World

Emotional World / Abraham-Hicks

Abraham-Hicks:

None of you ever feel joy unless you are moving into what is new. There is no regression. You can’t hold back; you can’t stand still. Life insists that you become more.

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You can’t create enough pretty things or enough pretty faces or enough brilliant novels or enough brilliant music, you can’t have enough beautiful statues or paintings… you can’t make the world a beautiful enough place for you to stand around in observation of what someone else has created and have a good life. You’ve got to be in on the creative process yourself.

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Habits & Identity

James Clear on the effect that habits have on your self-image:

Your habits are the way that you embody a particular identity. So, every morning that you make your bed, you embody the identity of an organized person. Every time you go to the gym, you embody the identity of someone who’s fit. Every time you sit down to write, you embody the identity of someone who’s a writer.

Every action you take is kind of like a vote for the type of person that you believe that you are. As you take these actions, you build up evidence of a particular identity, and pretty soon your beliefs have something to root themselves in. It’s like, “Man, I showed up at the gym for 4 days a week for the last three months; I guess I’m the type of person who doesn’t miss workouts” — and that I think is the true reason why habits are so important.

Once I realized how beliefs and behaviors are connected, that it’s this two-way street… then I started to think that this is really something. Not only does it deliver those external results — the clean room, or the bigger bank account — but also the internal results of shaping your sense of self-image and what you believe.

Source: Rich Roll podcast, episode 401

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