Be Deeply Curious

Dr. Roland Griffiths:

We’ve now treated hundreds of participants with psychedelics and before sessions, one of the key things that we teach them is that upon taking a psychedelic, there’s going to be an explosion of interior experiences. What we ask them to do is be with those experiences — be interested and curious. You don’t have to figure anything out. You’re going to have guides, and we’re going to create this safety container around you.

But here’s the trick: These are not necessarily feel-good experiences.

People can have experiences in which they feel like they come to this beautiful understanding of who they are and what the world is, but people can also have frightening experiences. The preparation we give for these experiences is to stay with them, be curious and recognize the ephemeral nature of them. If you do that, you’re going to find that they change.

The metaphor we use is, imagine that you’re confronted with the most frightening demon you can imagine. It’s made by you, for you, to scare you. I’ll say: “There’s nothing in consciousness that can hurt you. So what you want to do is be deeply curious and, if anything, approach it.” If your natural tendency is to run, it can chase you for the entire session. But if you can see it as an appearance of mind, then you go, “Oh, that’s scary, but yeah, I’m going to investigate that.”

And:

Because there’s something about the nature of these experiences under these certain conditions that produce remarkable experiences of interconnectedness of all things. At the deepest level, if we recognize we’re all in this together, then we have the kernel of what I suspect is most religious traditions and impulses and that is realizing that the Golden Rule makes a lot of sense.

And:

Why would evolution waste its precious energy on our having interior experiences at all? I don’t get that. To me, it’s a very precious mystery, and that mystery, if you want to put it in religious terms, is God. It’s the unknowable. It’s unfathomable. I don’t believe in God as conceptualized within different religious traditions, but the mystery thing is something that strikes me as undeniable.

And:

I want everyone to appreciate the joy and wonder of every single moment of their lives. We should be astonished that we are here when we look around at the exquisite wonder and beauty of everything. I think everyone has a sense of that already. It’s leaning into that more fully. There is a reason every day to celebrate that we’re alive, that we have another day to explore whatever this gift is of being conscious, of being aware, of being aware that we are aware. That’s the deep mystery that I keep talking about. That’s to be celebrated!

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Shadow Work

Neville Goddess:

People eschewing shadow work, I wish you nothing but the best. There is literally no way around this stuff. You can’t imagine it away, you can’t affirm it away, it resides in you until you make the connection and deal with it. You will go through life blind to the fact that what you feel isn’t what you think it is, or about what you think it is, making decisions and taking actions from that confused mental place, believing that one thing is causing another, just fumbling in the absolute dark while things you don’t have the courage to understand operate you. It’s the nature of the computer, that much is obvious.

All “shadow work” is being willing to understand the things that are operating you without you realizing it and being willing to see them for what they are: mistakes. Errors. Childlike judgment. Decisions and beliefs made from a place of pain and misunderstanding. That’s literally it. What caused this? And what did I decide about it that is creating my reality that isn’t working for me right now. Or what did I fail to grieve? That is what the current thing is for me. “Put on a strong face, don’t let them know they hurt you, and MOVE ON.” – the problem is you carry that with you and make decisions from it, thinking that is just you and your choices.

Sometimes it is just allowing yourself to feel the grief and realizing that the fortifications you’ve built up because of that really aren’t necessary anymore. We draw weird conclusions about how to handle things as kids, young adults, adults operating from a “lower” mindset. That’s all it is.

Every time something is released you are broadcasting a higher frequency, as Esther says. You get freer and freer. You cross one more thing off the list, you kick one more bag of slimy garbage off of your ability to just be happy, secure and safe.

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Steve Jobs & Emotional Intelligence

Justin Bariso on Steve Jobs and Andy Grove:

Jobs then wrote Grove directly, calling the engineer’s email “extremely arrogant” and labeling his (and Intel’s) understanding of computer graphics architecture as “dismal.”

And here is where it really gets interesting.

Just one day later, Grove responded to Jobs. Grove’s email is a master class in communication, persuasion, and emotional intelligence, and it shows why Grove proved to be a mentor for Jobs for much of his life.

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Risk it

Steve Pavlina:

I’ve seen time and time again that the ideas that felt risky or edgy to me were often those that produced the most value for people. The articles that I was most hesitant to publish were frequently the most impactful. I’ve enjoyed a delightful lifestyle thanks to the simple, repeated act of sharing honestly.

And:

Bounce over to the circles where mutual alignment is strong. Bounce out where resonance is weak.

It’s often the case that you must bounce out of a mismatch before you’ll even perceive the possibility of a match. That’s because if you’re in a mismatched situation, you’re actually repelling matches, usually before you can even perceive them.

You can also apply this advice to relationships. Think of your best relationships as being anti-fragile. You can express the full range of your personality without holding back, and you’ll still be loved. Imagine getting involved with someone new with the attitude of sharing everything about yourself that’s you think will induce someone to reject you. Anyone who makes it through is likely to be a strong match.

So share the ideas and express the aspects of your personality that you hallucinate will get you fired, rejected, or cast out. That will help you discover where you’re most appreciated and where you can push your talents and develop your ideas even further.

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“Here I am within you.”

Walter Russell:

Many have asked if I could more specifically direct them how to kindle that spark of inner fire which illumines the way to one’s self. That I cannot do. I can merely point the way and tell you of its existence. You must then find it for yourself.

The only way you can find it is through being alone with your thoughts at sufficiently long intervals to give that inner voice within you a chance to cry out in distinguishable language to you, ‘Here I am within you.’ That is the silent voice, the voice of nature, which speaks to everyone who will listen.

Lock yourself up in your room or go out in the woods where you can be alone. When you are alone the universe talks to you in flashes of inspiration. You will find that you will suddenly know things which you never knew before. All knowledge exists in the God-Mind and is extended into this electrical universe of creative expression through desire. Knowledge is yours for the asking. You have but to plug into it. You do not have to learn anything; in fact, all you have to do is recollect it, or recognize it, for you already have it as your inheritance.

And:

Seek to be alone much to commune with Nature and be thus inspired by her mighty whisperings within your consciousness. Nature is a most jealous god, for she will not whisper her inspiring revelations to you unless you are absolutely alone with her.

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Moby Dick & Anger

Reddit:

Moby Dick is always going to be the most important book to me because it taught me that anger is ALWAYS caused by feeling like you/someone didn’t get what they deserve.

When I think about it, every time I get pissed I can ultimately trace it back to my attachment to justice.

For example:

Angry cause your boyfriend cheated on you: You didn’t get the love you expect/deserve.

Angry because of police brutality: Civilians not being treated like they should be.

Angry cause your fucking phone screen keeps cracking: was meant to be built better for you.

I can go on and on and trace every single instance of anger back to an attachment to justice. This is the most freeing thing I’ve ever learned. If you take away any assumption that there is a general rule to the universe that dictates what you do and don’t get, you’ll be a very chill person.

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Understand your users.

Paul Graham:

Having gotten it down to 13 sentences, I asked myself which I’d choose if I could only keep one.

Understand your users. That’s the key. The essential task in a startup is to create wealth; the dimension of wealth you have most control over is how much you improve users’ lives; and the hardest part of that is knowing what to make for them. Once you know what to make, it’s mere effort to make it, and most decent hackers are capable of that.

Understanding your users is part of half the principles in this list. That’s the reason to launch early, to understand your users. Evolving your idea is the embodiment of understanding your users. Understanding your users well will tend to push you toward making something that makes a few people deeply happy. The most important reason for having surprisingly good customer service is that it helps you understand your users. And understanding your users will even ensure your morale, because when everything else is collapsing around you, having just ten users who love you will keep you going.

Also::

It’s better, initially, to make a small number of users really love you than a large number kind of like you.

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You make what you measure.

Paul Graham:

Merely measuring something has an uncanny tendency to improve it. If you want to make your user numbers go up, put a big piece of paper on your wall and every day plot the number of users. You’ll be delighted when it goes up and disappointed when it goes down. Pretty soon you’ll start noticing what makes the number go up, and you’ll start to do more of that. Corollary: be careful what you measure.

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Steve Jobs on Intelligence

Steve Jobs:

A lot of [what it means to be smart] is the ability to zoom out, like you’re in a city and you could look at the whole thing from the 80th floor down at the city. And while other people are trying to figure out how to get from point A to point B reading these stupid little maps, you could just see it in front of you. You can see the whole thing.

And:

You have to not have the same bag of experiences as everyone else does, or else you’re gonna make the same connections and you won’t be innovative. […] You might want to think about going to Paris and being a poet for a few years. Or you might want to go to a third-world country — I’d highly advise that. Falling in love with two people at once. Walt Disney took LSD, do you know that?

Alan Trapulionis:

Some time ago, I did an exercise where I tried to recall the key turning points in my life. After a while, I realized that it was never a “genius idea” or “an amazing realization” that shaped my path — but people.

I’d meet someone. I’d have my core assumptions challenged. We’d do something together that I’d never think of doing on my own. In the end, I’d be left with experiences and lessons that I never would’ve been able to get just by my own intellectual effort.

Leonardo da Vinci:

To develop a complete mind: Study the science of art; Study the art of science. Learn how to see. Realize that everything connects to everything else.

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